Wow. Just as I thought I was getting a handle on things, I get a reality smack down to tell me not to be so smug. Don't want to go into great detail, as it's personal, but both my girls are dealing with some recent life events that sadden my heart.
I thought I was doing a decent job of parenting, but I'm having to reassess. How do you know when you're hindering your children instead of helping them? Just as most parents do, I want good things for my brood, and try to clear the path for them to succeed. However, maybe I've been doing too much for them, and it's time to step back and let them take over the process. Rules need to be made and changed, and I anticipate that it's gonna get messy before it gets better.
In for a pinch, in for a pound. Tomorrow is another day.
Friday, January 6, 2012
Thursday, January 5, 2012
I'm Still Tired....
Yeesh. How many times do I have to keep trying to live the schedule of someone much younger than me, staying up til almost midnight most nights, then getting up before the sun to start the day with and for the Mister? I am sooo not a morning person....
I don't think there are too many nights when I get more than about 5-6 hours of sleep, until I hit Friday and Saturday night. Part of it is that the Mister gets up at the unreasonable (to me!) hour of 5am to get ready for his workday. If I could just sleep in until 7am, then blink and have my shower done, coffee ready and lunches packed, I'd probably be a lot more functional both at home and on the job. Of course, If the Mister kept to that schedule, then he'd be late for work, which creates a whole other set of problems for me. It always amazes me how he needs me (or SG) to get him up, pack his lunch and do his to-go coffee - yet on those rare occasions that I'm not around, he can do it for himself. What gives? I'd love to be able to take a shower, then come downstairs to drink a cup of coffee, before picking up my lunch and a thermos and go-cup of coffee and walking out the door. I think it's that Mom thing - we're expected to tend to stuff in the house and the family, and Dad, he's expected to work. Funny how things haven't changed, even though loads of moms are currently working outside the home alongside the dads.
It's probably one of my weaknesses that the few TV shows that I really like to watch seem to start at 10pm, as well. I'm sure that doesn't help with my poor sleeping habits. And yes, even though I'm somewhat technologically challenged, without access to the internet on my phone, no FaceBook account (I flat out refuse), no Twitter, Tumblr, etc., we do have access to a DVR on our TV - yet I don't want to watch my shows at any other time than when they're truly scheduled to air. Probably due to the fact that we only have 2 TVs in our house, and you're lucky you can get time when the TV's free to watch what you want!
I think, I know, we'd be better off with another TV in the house, but I refuse to have a TV on the bedroom level. I've long said that the day a TV moves into the master bedroom, I'd move out. Can't say as that's ever gonna happen though, as there's no place to put a TV in our room, and I like it that way, too!
Man, talk about getting off track! I think I need more sleep.....
I don't think there are too many nights when I get more than about 5-6 hours of sleep, until I hit Friday and Saturday night. Part of it is that the Mister gets up at the unreasonable (to me!) hour of 5am to get ready for his workday. If I could just sleep in until 7am, then blink and have my shower done, coffee ready and lunches packed, I'd probably be a lot more functional both at home and on the job. Of course, If the Mister kept to that schedule, then he'd be late for work, which creates a whole other set of problems for me. It always amazes me how he needs me (or SG) to get him up, pack his lunch and do his to-go coffee - yet on those rare occasions that I'm not around, he can do it for himself. What gives? I'd love to be able to take a shower, then come downstairs to drink a cup of coffee, before picking up my lunch and a thermos and go-cup of coffee and walking out the door. I think it's that Mom thing - we're expected to tend to stuff in the house and the family, and Dad, he's expected to work. Funny how things haven't changed, even though loads of moms are currently working outside the home alongside the dads.
It's probably one of my weaknesses that the few TV shows that I really like to watch seem to start at 10pm, as well. I'm sure that doesn't help with my poor sleeping habits. And yes, even though I'm somewhat technologically challenged, without access to the internet on my phone, no FaceBook account (I flat out refuse), no Twitter, Tumblr, etc., we do have access to a DVR on our TV - yet I don't want to watch my shows at any other time than when they're truly scheduled to air. Probably due to the fact that we only have 2 TVs in our house, and you're lucky you can get time when the TV's free to watch what you want!
I think, I know, we'd be better off with another TV in the house, but I refuse to have a TV on the bedroom level. I've long said that the day a TV moves into the master bedroom, I'd move out. Can't say as that's ever gonna happen though, as there's no place to put a TV in our room, and I like it that way, too!
Man, talk about getting off track! I think I need more sleep.....
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Oh, Tannenbaum
When do you take down your Christmas decorations? We have a house on our street - they put up their decorations either on Thanksgiving Day or the day after. And, of course, they took them down on New Year's Day! As I've been saying recently, I'm nowhere near that organized - my (box) tree went up either the first or second weekend of December, and got decorated within a few days of that (and not by me, I might add!). We don't have outside lights to put up - I bought a 3.5 foot LED snowflake this year - my sole outside decoration!
The tree still sits in all its decorated glory in my living room, and there are still various gifts belonging to family strewn around the room, including some of my own gifts. I guess if it were a cut tree, I'd be more on top of getting it undecorated and out on the street, but with a box tree, it's just a matter of finding the time, hauling the decoration boxes back up from the basement, and actually stripping the tree and boxing them all up again. Then, there's the compressing of the branches, the unplugging of all the (7!) light connections on the tree, and trying to cram the 7.5 foot tree back into its much smaller box in all its 3-piece glory.
Can you blame me for being less than enthused about this endeavor, especially since I'll be doing it by my lonesome? We shall see if I actually accomplish the re-claiming of the living room this coming weekend, or if I get sucked into the time vortex that is laundry!
The tree still sits in all its decorated glory in my living room, and there are still various gifts belonging to family strewn around the room, including some of my own gifts. I guess if it were a cut tree, I'd be more on top of getting it undecorated and out on the street, but with a box tree, it's just a matter of finding the time, hauling the decoration boxes back up from the basement, and actually stripping the tree and boxing them all up again. Then, there's the compressing of the branches, the unplugging of all the (7!) light connections on the tree, and trying to cram the 7.5 foot tree back into its much smaller box in all its 3-piece glory.
Can you blame me for being less than enthused about this endeavor, especially since I'll be doing it by my lonesome? We shall see if I actually accomplish the re-claiming of the living room this coming weekend, or if I get sucked into the time vortex that is laundry!
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
One Bite at a Time
You know the famous one-liner about how do you eat an elephant? Answer: "One bite at a time."
I think this is going to have to be my mantra about getting organized, except it's going to have to be - one spot or room at a time. And that's going to be a s-l-o-w process, because, while I don't have the biggest house around, I share space with an ADHD boy, a busy-lifed teen girl with all of her possessions and personal Mt. Corner in her room (I don't know when she's last seen the bottom of it!), and a preoccupied Mister. And then there's all the other people dancing around the periphery of my life....
I'm not saying that I'm in any way better than the above-mentioned people, just that it seems to be my lot in life to be the one walking behind everyone, picking up stuff. It's either that, or trip over it. Or I'm the only one seeing the bigger picture, and the one who's concerned enough about it to tackle the problem. And no, I don't particularly like being the one who is just "supposed" to do these things, but if I don't, who will??
And so, I will address most of my life issues, one bite at a time. Any one know of a good book of elephant receipes?
I think this is going to have to be my mantra about getting organized, except it's going to have to be - one spot or room at a time. And that's going to be a s-l-o-w process, because, while I don't have the biggest house around, I share space with an ADHD boy, a busy-lifed teen girl with all of her possessions and personal Mt. Corner in her room (I don't know when she's last seen the bottom of it!), and a preoccupied Mister. And then there's all the other people dancing around the periphery of my life....
I'm not saying that I'm in any way better than the above-mentioned people, just that it seems to be my lot in life to be the one walking behind everyone, picking up stuff. It's either that, or trip over it. Or I'm the only one seeing the bigger picture, and the one who's concerned enough about it to tackle the problem. And no, I don't particularly like being the one who is just "supposed" to do these things, but if I don't, who will??
And so, I will address most of my life issues, one bite at a time. Any one know of a good book of elephant receipes?
Monday, January 2, 2012
Time
Time is one thing everyone craves more of - yet it's the one thing mankind hasn't figured out how to manufacture more of. There's a finite amount of time to each and every day, and it's up to us to figure out how to get the most out of those hours.
What with my kids being out of school for Christmas break, and then staying up like a young fool on New Years' Eve, I've gotten my time turned around, and now must endeavor to get myself back on the work and school schedule. All in one night. I am seriously not looking forward to the rest of this week.
Coffee, anyone?
What with my kids being out of school for Christmas break, and then staying up like a young fool on New Years' Eve, I've gotten my time turned around, and now must endeavor to get myself back on the work and school schedule. All in one night. I am seriously not looking forward to the rest of this week.
Coffee, anyone?
Sunday, January 1, 2012
2012
Maybe I can hold to a mini-resolution to post WAY more frequently than I did last year.
Just a quick status here - spent New Years' Eve w/my middle daughter and her boyfriend babysitting my 2 grands at my oldest daughter's apartment. (Did you get that convoluted statement?) While my mind is young-at-heart, my body is definitely grandmotherly. I managed to stay up til past 2 am, then read for another 20 minutes or so in bed. Set an alarm for 7 am (HA! who am I fooling?) Fell asleep again til 9:50! Even the grands slept in!
Had a great day w/people I care about and like. Let's hope that 2012 is a good year!
Just a quick status here - spent New Years' Eve w/my middle daughter and her boyfriend babysitting my 2 grands at my oldest daughter's apartment. (Did you get that convoluted statement?) While my mind is young-at-heart, my body is definitely grandmotherly. I managed to stay up til past 2 am, then read for another 20 minutes or so in bed. Set an alarm for 7 am (HA! who am I fooling?) Fell asleep again til 9:50! Even the grands slept in!
Had a great day w/people I care about and like. Let's hope that 2012 is a good year!
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